Blogs
The Tree House
Agency, a choice or a practice?
How the idea of personal agency ties a bow on our bundle of AR skillsets.
Rebuilding community
In all the noise of recent film making, one or two gems show us something about relational healing and growth.
Dealing with criticism
The kind of approach we take to receiving unsolicited criticism might depend on who is giving it.
Feedback in the business world
Our journey to develop some kind of protocol, warrants a deeper look into the literature.
The importance of being inauthentic
Do i want to be authentic or do i want to be helpful?
Handling unresolved tensions
Thinking out loud about what's at the heart of keeping things current.
Towards a context for feedback
Here i dig into the weeds in search of a context to hold growthful negative feedback.
The circle of safety
How innovations in workplace leadership are quietly harnessing attachment to develop (and heal) relational capacity.
The biochemistry of leadership
On the intersection of social status, and leadership as scratching a neurochemical itch.
Appreciation as prayer
Expressing relational gratitude is pro-regulatory, but could it also be a form of prayer?
The context of a blog
Something of a meta blog, on why i write, and my fear of writing.
Learning to repair
Why the art of difficult conversations is such an important part of AR.
Practice comes first
Thinking out loud on the asymmetry of the project's purposes.
The stickiness of desire
Nuances of needs, wants, desires, invitations, and requests.
The Pollyanna principle
What is the "positivity bias" and how do we reconcile it with the negativity bias.
Hormesis as a lens
Part 3 of my book review of 'The Power of Bad', on the Goldilocks of social stress.
NVC as a journey
How it took me 5 decades to finish reading Rosenberg's book.
The feedback sandwich
Roy Baumeister's evidence for why it doesn't work, and how to improve on it.
The anatomy of a request
Since Betty Martin nothing will ever be same again, darn it.
Appreciation as reflection
As we try to reflect more naturally might appreciation be a doorway?
What exactly is the container?
Do groups have a nervous system? Might the facilitator's nervous system serve as a container for the group?
Pendulation in AR
How alternating pair and group processes helps AR practitioners integrate.
The metabolism of mental wellbeing
Is there a new way to understand emotional well-being than just the bio-psycho-social model?
The juciness of desire
On desire, instead of needs. On the giving and receiving of 'full yes' consent.
The engineering of solidarity
How Noam Chomsky's 'engineered separation' relates to the project's goal of building collaborative capacity.
Collaboration as a practice
Where collaboration fits in the AR landscape, and what it means for our practice life.
Is criticism ever useful?
What happens when my experience of you is negative or painful? Should I also reveal that, and if so how?
Small talk as nervous system medicine
When we greet a stranger with: How are you, it's nice to meet you, what are we really saying?
Noble suffering
What does the 4 noble truths tell us about AR's Welcome Everything premise?
Getting your head around AR
Looking from the outside, AR is not easy to grasp. The benefits are kind of abstract and non-immediate.
Context as the New Boundaries
On setting context, and how its affected by our relationship to wants and needs.
Trauma Informed AR
What happens if the last significant time we tried to connect, we got wounded?
An Open Letter to Facilitators
This open letter to facilitators everywhere, asks the question, what is a facilitator?
Radical honesty, and...
On the role of listening, and the zeal of the AR heyday.
Reciprocal Altruism
On the role of reciprocation in conscious sociality, the potential for developing planetary scale interconnectedness.
On Open Source
What open source means to me, and what it might mean to the project
Resourcing Facilitation
Thoughts on how to resource and accredit facilitation.
